Tips to Discover Your Why

Why do you want something?  Knowing your why is a powerful motivator to keeping you on track to achieving your goal.

Why, Knowing Why is Important

Knowing your “why” is important because it brings clarity, motivation, resilience, and a sense of purpose to your life. It guides your decisions, enhances your well-being, and allows you to make a meaningful impact on both your own life and the lives of others.

  1. Clarity of Purpose: Your “why” gives you a clear sense of purpose and direction in life. It helps you understand what truly matters to you and what you want to achieve.
  2. Motivation: Your “why” serves as a powerful source of motivation. When you have a compelling reason behind your actions and goals, you are more likely to stay committed and persevere through challenges.
  3. Goal Alignment: It helps you align your goals and actions with your values and beliefs. This ensures that your efforts are consistent with what you find meaningful and important.
  4. Resilience: Knowing your “why” makes you more resilient in the face of adversity. When you face obstacles or setbacks, your sense of purpose can help you overcome challenges and keep moving forward.
  5. Better Decision-Making: Your “why” serves as a guide for decision-making. It helps you prioritize and make choices that are in line with your purpose and values.
  6. Increased Well-Being: When you are connected to your “why,” you often experience greater life satisfaction and a sense of fulfillment. Living with purpose contributes to overall well-being.
  7. Improved Relationships: Understanding your “why” can enhance your relationships. It allows you to communicate your values and goals more clearly, which can lead to better connections with others who share similar values.
  8. Focus and Productivity: Your “why” provides focus and helps you avoid distractions. It encourages you to concentrate on what matters most and can boost your productivity.
  9. Positive Impact: When you are connected to your “why,” you are more likely to make a positive impact on the world. It can drive you to contribute to causes, communities, and initiatives that align with your purpose.
  10. Personal Growth: Your “why” can be a catalyst for personal growth and development. It encourages you to step out of your comfort zone, learn, and evolve in pursuit of your purpose.

7 Layers Deep

The “7 Layers Deep” exercise is a personal development technique that involves asking “why” repeatedly to explore your motivations and values at a deeper level. Let’s take an example of someone trying to uncover their motivation for wanting to start a new business:

1 (Why do you want to start a new business?) “I want to start a new business because I want financial independence.”
2 (Why do you want financial independence?) “I want financial independence because I don’t want to rely on a paycheck and I want more control over my life.”
3 (Why do you want more control over your life?) “I want more control over my life because I want to have the flexibility to spend more time with my family.”
4 (Why do you want to spend more time with your family?) “I want to spend more time with my family because I believe in the importance of strong family bonds, and I want to be there for my loved ones.”
5 (Why is having strong family bonds important to you?) “Having strong family bonds is important to me because I grew up in a close-knit family, and those relationships have provided me with a sense of belonging and emotional support.”
6 (Why is a sense of belonging and emotional support important?): “A sense of belonging and emotional support are important because they contribute to my overall well-being and happiness. I want to recreate that for my own family.”
7 (Why do you want to create well-being and happiness for your family?): “I want to create well-being and happiness for my family because I believe that nurturing happy, well-adjusted individuals within my family will have a positive ripple effect in the world, spreading kindness and positivity to others.”

In this example, the “7 Layers Deep” exercise helps the individual uncover that their motivation for starting a new business is deeply rooted in their desire to create well-being, happiness, and a positive impact in the world through their family relationships. This exercise can reveal profound and meaningful insights into one’s motivations and values.


Here is my why for starting to inspire others.

1. Why do I want to start to inspire others? I want to build a platform that can financially and emotionally support myself and others.
2. Why do I want to financially and emotionally support myself and others? If I can financially and emotionally support myself, I can reach more people.
3. Why do I want to reach more people? My transformation positively impacted me, and I want to share my journey with others facing my scenario.  I also want to help others share their transformational journeys (helping more people).
4. Why do I want to share journeys to help people? Helping people gives me the most energy and purpose.  Emotions are my most powerful motivator.  Seeing someone achieve something they didn’t think they could makes me emotional.
5. Why does it make me emotional? I was not confident growing up, I didn’t think I could do things. I was afraid to try something new. I had a few breakthroughs and I had people that believed in me and that made a big difference.
6. Why does confidence and belief in yourself make a difference? There is so much hate, blame, bullying, selfishness, negativity in the world and it seems to be getting worse.  People are getting lost.  I want to be a role model to change the focus to people (not things) and accountability (not blame) and bring belief and confidence to others.
7. Why do you want to be a role model? I want to teach (kids, friends, anyone that needs it) that you can be successful and make a difference by lifting others first.   I want people to know they are enough; they are not alone, and we believe in them.

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Jen Weis

The publisher of Morning Cup.